Can You Teach People To Have Empathy? This is a fairly frequent question in my office. It’s a complex question. Sometimes the question reflects a cycle in the relationship (one person is overwhelmed by a perception that the emotional demands of the other are unattainable “Is this something else I’m Read more…
This piece from the NY Times beautifully captures the pain of an “avoid-avoid” or “withdraw-withdraw” relationship. Sometimes it’s very hard to help people take the small steps they need to take towards each other to build a different cycle in their relationship. Often, as in this story, one person wants Read more…
Many of us try to stay fit by exercising. We want to increase our odds of living today and tomorrow with strength, vigor and flexibility. It could be, though, that we are overlooking one of the most important variables contributing to good health: the quality of our primary relationships. A Read more…
I was surprised to find an article in the Wall Street Journal (The Post-Affair Conversation, September 8, 2015) that put into words something that had been in the back of my mind as a couples therapist: How a spouse finds out about an affair significantly affects the relationship outcome post-affair. Read more…